3 Favs
Favorite Pet Picture: In honor of #ChocolateWithAlmondsDay meet Hershey! He doesn’t come with almonds, but he does come with lots of energy. He’s looking for someone who would be willing to exercise his active mind and body. He’ll also need ongoing treatment. Check out his video if you want to see him “get crazy”! He is currently being cared through Dolly's Legacy Animal Rescue. If you know his fur-ever family, click the “Share” button and introduce them!
Favorite Book Quote: A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles by Marianne Williamson
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?
Random Favorite: The book, Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life by by Stuart Shanker
This book uses brain science to explain why self-control can backfire and how to use self-regulation techniques to get back into a state of being in which you and your child can actually function.
The exercises in the daily energy updates support self-regulation too!
What were some of your favorite things this week?
& a Q
Question: I want to be higher vibration, but then people in my life don’t listen to me and I just get mad and end up yelling. How can I be heard without the anger and yelling?
There are several reasons that someone might not be able to hear you. If you can identify and address your cause, it will help you be heard. Also, practicing being in a higher vibration daily (perhaps by doing the exercises that come with the Typically Invisible Daily Energy Updates) will help you get back back to a high vibration as quickly as possible after you’ve lost it and yelled. Remember: we are people, not perfect. It’s ok to make mistakes. The best thing to do after losing it is to reset and restart!
Here are some of the reasons people may not be hearing you:
You ignore yourself. You aren’t listening to yourself. Energetically, if you’re not listening to yourself, you’re giving permission for others to ignore you as well. So, the first thing to do is start listening to you. What is your heart saying to you that you’ve been choosing not to hear? One step in the direction of your heart’s desire may clear the energy enough so you are able to make yourself be heard to others in a pleasant and loving way.
The wrong wavelength. You are on a completely different wavelength than them. You may have totally different political, spiritual, or life beliefs. Your beliefs challenge their own, so they tune you out. No amount of yelling will change their minds. You can not educate them out of their beliefs. So, in this case, a ‘live and let live’ policy might be in order for you.
Too much static. I heard this theory that when you’re in your home, your stuff talks to you. Books say: “Read me!”. Trash says: “Throw me out!”. That unused thing asks, “Why did you buy me?”. That broken thing says: “Fix me!”. If our stuff is yelling at us all the time, it makes it very hard to hear ourselves think much less listen to our loved ones. Small children are particularly sensitive to the “noise” that clutter makes. Creating more clear space is one way of reducing that static so you can be better heard.
Counterproductive messaging. You’re not saying it in a way they want to hear it. This is very common with children. For example, what happens if you say “Turn off the TV.”? Chances are you get totally tuned out. Then you feel disrespected. Then you get mad. Then you start yelling and threatening. Everyone starts fighting. And the TV is probably still on.
The challenge is: How do you say something in a way that it is attractive to them? Or, better yet (in the case of requirements), how do you set the situation so that you don’t have to say anything at all?
Television is a challenging example because I believe that it is addictive which completely changes one’s ability to act in a reasonable way. No one would expect a drug addict to just put down the drugs and start their homework. So let’s move on to a different example.
In the case of a small child, rather than barking orders, perhaps you could play a game, make a request in a funny voice, or even pretend that your child is a cute little animal: “Go get your shoes on little puppy!”. Chances are your kid will start panting and barking and grab their shoes.
With older children and adults who require less hand-holding, relying on autonomy might be the best bet. Perhaps you could create a list of expectations together then leave them to it. If you stay out of it for long enough, they’ll see that you are serous about not nagging or yelling at them which could engage their intrinsic motivation.
This last cause is a tricky one to address though! Every person responds well to different forms of communication. If you have any tips or tricks that work for the kids and adults in your life, feel free to share them.
I’d love to know how you get heard without getting mad and yelling.
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Month in Review
Just in case you missed them, here are the weekly emails from the last month:
Question: Do I need to be all “love and light” all the time?
Question: How do I “raise my awareness” as many “spiritual gurus” suggest?
Question: What is magic?
Question: What do you struggle with?
Question: What can I do for depression and anxiety?
Week in Review
Here is the subscriber-only content you may have missed this last week. Remember, the daily energy updates are relevant for the day, but the exercises can be done at any time!
Friday: Walk and Breathe
Saturday: Magical Communication
Sunday: Assess your Life
Monday: Steps Toward Mastery
Tuesday: Laugh to Re-Center
Wednesday: Renew Your Senses
Today: Create Belonging
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