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Favorite Pet Picture: In honor of #PetFireSafetyDay on the 15th, I introduce you to Sparky. He’s very curious, enjoys playing, and loves the outdoors. He’s currently being cared for through Santa Fe Animal Shelter & Humane Society. If you know Sparky’s fur-every family, pass this along and introduce them!
Favorite Book Quote: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
“We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.
Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.
Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.”Random Favorite: Gelatin
I wanted to add more goodness into the family lifestyle, so I started using more gelatin by making homemade gummies for the family. They are so much fun and, even though they are like a cross between Jell-o and gummy bears, they’re pretty good and (almost) everyone loves them. (We’ve got one who takes issue with the “natural” texture.) But, this week, I started adding the gelatin to my coffee and today I added gelatin, cacao, a little maple syrup, and some whole milk and made myself a delicious DIY mocha. I had no idea it would work out so well! If you’re interested, let me know and I’ll put the recipe on my website.
What were some of your favorite things this week?
& a Q
Question: How do I get over guilt about things my younger self did and things I didn’t do but should have done? I find that guilt over my previous choices is getting in the way of my relationships with people now - not because they have a problem with how I’ve acted, but because I do. I used to think I didn’t have any regrets, but all of the sudden, I have regrets about a bunch of stuff that makes me feel guilt whenever I think about the people involved.
Disclaimer: This is not medical, legal, or financial advice. If you need the advice of a professional, please get it.
If it was just that you felt guilty about making a mistake, I would suggest owning up to it and asking for forgiveness. And forgiving yourself - remembering that people do the best they can in the moment.
But, it sounds like this was stuff from the past that’s just coming up now. That could be for several reasons, so let’s go over a few reasons now.
Stress
Sometimes, when the body and mind are past over-load, little things become big things. Especially if this is something that just started coming up, then it’s probably not only about the mistakes that were made, it’s more about the imbalance in your system that is occurring which is keeping you obsessed with, and triggered by, the mistakes.
Look at your lifestyle. Are you eating enough, sleeping enough, getting good nutrition, limiting toxins (including sugar, caffeine, and alcohol)? Do you have someone you can vent to and bounce ideas off of? Are you taking time to be in nature and be creative? Do you spend time around people that make you feel respected, loved, and cared for? If not, it might be a good time to make some changes.
Once your system is a little more balanced, it might be easier to handle the emotions that are coming up.
Trauma
Sometimes a trauma or major life change can trigger an emotional reactivation of issues from the past. In this case, you’ll want to do all of the above, and you’ll probably want to get some extra support as you heal from the trauma you’ve experienced.
Time
Sometimes it’s just time to heal. Do you know what we do with emotions we can’t handle in the moment? We stuff them down deep inside our body. When we’re capable of healing them (or, as in the case of trauma, we’ve got so stuffed much down that nothing else can fit) they start coming back up again. If you’re overloaded, you may want extra support. Otherwise, this is coming up now because your body knows you’re ready to deal with it.
Now, Deal with It!
The first thing to do is accept. Yes, you messed up. You also get to accept that you did the best you could in the moment. People do the best they can - even you. Forgive yourself for not being what the current you thinks you should have been at that time. Give your younger yourself a little compassion. You must have been going through a hard time to make an error that you still feel so guilty about now.
Next is forgiveness. Forgiveness is easier once you’ve found compassion.
Then make it right. Do you need to clear off with someone though an apology? Do you need to pay something forward? Take some kind of action that you believe will make it right energetically - even if you can’t literally make it right.
Taking that action, with an attitude of self-compassion and forgiveness, can help you clear up your own energy so it no longer gets in the way of your current relationships with those people.
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Featured
I’ve finally got my website up! Each week, I’ll feature a product or service. This week, I’m featuring Stone Sessions!
I wrote about Pandora’s Potions a bit ago. Here is the back store on one of the potions: CHANGE OF HEART.
I have a person in my life who is here to teach me about love, patience, and creativity. To do so, this person challenges me and pushes all my buttons. There was one moment in time (that actually had nothing to do with this particular person) that seemed to break my ability to be creative in my relationships and communication. This led to a lack of patience which led to anger and frustration on both of our parts.
I want to show this person as much love as I can but, when I was speaking out of irritation or anger, I was not my most loving self. I was sick of it so I turned to my stones and created CHANGE OF HEART.
You know how the stone essences are made so I’ll just tell you about my chosen stones:
Lepidolite: for deep emotional healing and releasing bad habits and toxic patterns
Rhodonite: to release fear, express compassion and forgiveness, and to send love out into the world
Amethyst: for peace
Rose Quartz: for love
I was desperate so I made some stone water with three of the stones and drank it. (I didn’t have any Rhodonite at the time). Even without a key ingredient, the results were incredible, effortless, and instantaneous. All the sudden the things that triggered me no longer made me angry. We were out of the pattern that was making me miserable. I was immediately feeling the sweetness of love and caring that we had before. And I found myself being more capable of creativity in our relationship because I was feeling more peaceful.
I’m thrilled to share this with others who might also need a little change of heart toward someone they love! (Don’t think this one is right for you but want some support in finding the right stones - get a Stone Session!)
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Month in Review
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Question: Should I end relationships with difficult people?
Question: Will our actions kill the earth?
Question: Should abortion be allowed?
Question: Do ghosts really exist?
Question: Shouldn’t I just give it back?
Week in Review
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Friday: Focus Your Heart
Saturday: Do the Work
Sunday: Plan to Wing It
Monday: Be the Music
Tuesday: Make the Shift
Wednesday: Accept the Stress
Thursday: Do Something Unusual
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