3 Favs & a Q - April 8, 2021
Empanada & How do I disconnect from a trash-talker?
3 Favs
Favorite Pet Picture: In honor of National Empanada Day, meet Empanada! This sweet and playful little girl recently arrived from Puerto Rico with her brother, Pastelito. She is currently being fostered through Lost Paws Animal Rescue. If you know her fur-ever family, pass this along and introduce them!
Favorite Book Quote: Way of the Peaceful Warrior: A Book That Changes Lives by Dan Millman
Everyone tells you what's good for you. They don't want you to find your own answers. They want you to believe theirs.
Random Favorite: Long Wand Bubbles
I’ve written about bubbles before - how they bring together a community. But this time I’m writing about those bubbles with the long tubes. I love that they allow my hands to stay dry while I’m blowing bubbles. Plus, I’ve just begun using it as part of my mommy-meditation practice. When I begin to get frustrated (or really angry) I stop breathing and I disconnect from my grounded self. So, to address this (or prevent it), I’ve started taking the family outside, stepping on the earth with bare feet, and blowing bubbles. This accomplishes several things:
Having my feet on the earth is grounding and calming.
Blowing the long wand requires me to take nice, long, deep breaths.
Watching the bubbles is meditative.
Blowing the bubbles helps an emotional kid in the same way as it helps me.
Running after and popping the bubbles helps a child who needs to burn off some energy and redirects one who is feeling a bit aggressive.
The whole family immediately shifts from frustration to fun!
What were some of your favorite things this week?
& a Q
Question: Please help! How do I disconnect energetically from someone who keeps talking trash* about me whenever she can. I know this looks poorly on her to anyone intelligent but it’s definitely bothering me.
Before you start to disconnect, take inventory of what she is saying. What about you is she focused on? She may have a lot to teach you. Let’s say she’s talking about your hair - who would wear their hair like that?!
First, ask yourself: Is she telling the truth? If you work in an environment in which your hair is required to be pulled back completely from your face and neck, but your hair is all over the place, she might have a point. Maybe you do need to address your hair style. Simple fix! Maybe she just didn’t know how to tell you.
If however, it is a matter of opinion, then you need to ask yourself if it is your problem or hers.
Is she a mirror reflecting your own insecurities and thus inviting you to heal them? Perhaps you’ve been stressing about your hair and she’s been picking up on that negative energy and throwing it back at you. As distasteful as it seems - she is doing you a service. She is guiding you to an aspect of yourself that you are ready to heal. Energetically thank her for that and then commence with the healing.
Or, perhaps you are you content with you hair (or maybe you even love it!) and she is projecting her own insecurities on to you. In that case, it’s not your responsibility to fix her. Just recognize that she is a perfectly-imperfect being who is triggered by something you have that she wants. Send compassion to her.
Recognizing the lesson - be it a physical lesson, a healing lesson, or a lesson in compassion - may actually shift the energy enough to eliminate your need for disconnection. But, if it doesn’t, here’s what to do:
Whenever you think of this person smile and see golden healing light coming from Heaven in through your head and flowing to your heart. Allow it to fill up your heart and then send the light from your heart to hers. This is actually not for her benefit but for yours - it will make you feel a lot better.
If you feel that she is draining you energetically, imagine that there is a two-headed electrical cord that has been plugged from her into you. In your mind, unplug both plugs from your energy (while thanking her for loving you enough to want to be connected to you) and connect one plug to Heaven and the other plug to Earth.
You could stay away from her and everyone she talks to, but that’s probably not possible. So, be compassionate whenever you are around this person - in the same way you would be with a small child who is having a hard day.
Best wishes as you learn from this beautiful (and challenging) teacher!
*Edited from original question.
Month in Review
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Question: What does being afraid of death mean?
Question: How do we work toward equality?
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Monday: Stoke Your Fire
Tuesday: Don’t Speak
Wednesday: Try Something New
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Do you know someone who would benefit from going with the flow rather than fighting the current?
With so many people so stressed right now (I don’t know that it’s actually more than normal, but the psychologists are all definitely booked months in advance or not taking new patients). I see blame pop up a lot more as people are looking for reasons for their stress. Your approach to trash-talking is so helpful during this time.