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Favorite Pet Picture: In honor of #NationalSorryCharlieDay which invites us to view rejection from a positive perspective, meet Charlie. He’s got some special needs and wants to be with a person he can trust. He is currently being cared for through Pacific Pups Rescue. If you know his fur-ever family, pass this along and introduce them!
Favorite Book Quote: The Magic Strings of Frankie Presto by Mitch Albom
The secret is not to make your music louder, but to make the world quieter.
Random Favorite: Stone Infused Water
You heard about blue solar water previously. I’ve taken that a step further by infusing the water with stones. This is something I learned from my teacher, Master Jeffrey Yuen, and it’s something I’ve begun to explore more deeply recently. I added a little bit of this stone charged blue solar water to a bath and it made the water feel amazingly silky. I’m enjoying the soothing emotional benefits that the stones provide as well!
What were some of your favorite things this week?
& a Q
Question: Mother’s Day is always hard for me. I can never find the right card because my mom wasn’t like the moms in the Hallmark cards. She can actually be very hard to be around. She is my mom, though, and I want to do something nice for her for Mother’s Day. What can I do for her that doesn’t make me feel like I’m excusing her behavior and also makes her feel loved?
The first thing you can give her is the gift of compassion. You don’t need to excuse her behavior. You just need to understand that people do the best they can.
Think of it this way: You’re probably feeling hurt because there was something she didn’t provide for you as a child. Perhaps she was never home. Perhaps she was unloving. Maybe she let people walk all over her and you lacked stability as a result. If she knew how to do it differently, she probably would have.
What if, before you came to this Earth, you chose your mother specifically for her deficiencies?
One of your soul lessons may be to learn about commitment. You could have chosen your mother knowing she would give you the opportunity to feel abandoned as a child because she was never home, making you strongly invested in commitment and connection as an adult.
One of your soul lessons may be to learn about love and how to be loving. You may have chosen your mother specifically because of her inability to love and her selfishness. You may have wanted to experience a cold childhood so you would be determined to understand and learn to express love.
One of your soul lessons may be to trust yourself. Feeling the instability of having a mother who could not stand her ground may have been just what you needed to learn the importance of being strong in who you are.
Whatever you were lacking from your mother as a child may actually be a soul gift from her to you to help you become the person you are today and the person you’re growing into. If that’s the case, not only does she deserve compassion, she also deserves gratitude.
Even if you’ve now begun experiencing compassion and gratitude for your mother’s mothering, it may still be hard to show her affection. Here are some other gifts (inspired by The 5 Love Languages) that you might consider:
If she craves Words of Affirmation, make her a home-made card and tell her “Thank you for being the perfect mother for me.”. That does not mean she was the perfect mother by society’s standards, that just acknowledges the soul gifts she’s given you. (I would leave out the part about her deficiencies.)
If she appreciates Acts of Service, send a cleaning service over to her home for a few hours. Doing this in a spirit of love will allow her to receive a service from you, without you having to open yourself up too much if you’re still healing. Or, depending on your mom’s personality (and your desire to spend time with her) you may want to allow her to serve you.
If her love language is Receiving Gifts, anything thoughtful and personal will do. Think of something you might have wanted to give her as a child - like wildflowers you picked or a painting you made - and consider giving something similar now.
If Quality Time is what she is needing, but you’re not quite up for sitting in the dining room chatting over tea, consider meeting her at a movie theater or getting the whole family on a Zoom call. That way you can be with her and have a little bit of a buffer.
If Physical Touch is what makes her feel loved, and going in for a long hug is not something you’re up for yet, buy her a gift certificate for a foot massage.
The key is to approach these gifts with love, gratitude, and compassion rather than using them as a substitute for love.
I wish you the best of Mother’s Days!
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Month in Review
Just in case you missed them, here are the weekly emails from the last month:
Question: I'm affected by my kid's "stuff"! What do I do?
Question: What are angels?
Question: Can we affect other people with our thoughts?
Question: How do I disconnect from a trash-talker?
Question: How do we get the love back?
Week in Review
Here is the subscriber-only content you may have missed this last week. Remember, the daily energy updates are relevant for the day, but the meditations and exercises can be done at any time!
Friday: Pleasure in the Disagreeable
Saturday: Release and Recognize
Sunday: Conscious Cooking
Monday: Let the Problem Go
Tuesday: Source of Calm
Wednesday: Nature Ceremony
Today: Mirror Gazing
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An intuition to amnistic laws seems hovering with sputs,Not a fint,Not a slight of glow sense,but as detterents wont they be serving?