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Favorite Pet Picture: In honor of #BlueberryPieDay, meet Blueberry. She had some rough experiences but her wounds have healed and she’s ready for a family of her own. Her prey-drive is high so she needs to be the only animal AND she needs a strong, loving person to help her with boundaries. She is currently being cared for through Carolina Animal Rescue and Adoption. If you know Blueberry’s fur-ever family, pass this along and introduce them!
Favorite Book Quote: Becoming Me While Raising You - A Mother's Journey to Her Self by Kim Muench
“Our children come through us, not for us, except for the lessons they reflect to us [during their journey] in an effort to grow us up along the way.”
Random Favorite: Spring!
Over the course of the last month I’ve gotten to experience the grass waking up, trees that were bare become green or filled with flowers, new flowers pop up, and so many different bird songs. Its been amazing!
What were some of your favorite things this week?
& a Q
Question: I have family members that I love with all my heart but that test my patience and my boundaries. How do I know if my reactions are just emotional anger and boundary setting or if I’m actually withholding love?
First of all, please give yourself permission to feel your feelings - even if you are angry. It is OK to let someone know that you’re angry and that you don’t find their behavior acceptable.
It is also OK to have boundaries and to let others know what those boundaries and expectations are.
It is less desirable to be controlled by anger or to act out in anger in a way that you normally wouldn’t. In a child we would call this a temper tantrum, but apparently many adults (including parents) think losing our temper and yelling is an acceptable way to behave. But give yourself grace - we are all human. The only thing we can do is learn from mistakes, do our best to “make it right”, and be better next time. (Although, if your anger is causing you to hurt another person, or yourself, please seek professional help.)
But it seems like your question is more about what “withholding love” actually looks like.
To someone who has a tendency to bend over backward to accomodate another’s desires, to say “No.” may feel like withholding love - when it’s actually just the setting of a boundary.
Saying “I’m upset, I need a few moments alone.” is not withholding love. It is setting a boundary.
But, ignoring your loved one, not making eye contact, giving someone the cold shoulder, or withholding physical affection are all ways of withholding love.
If you find that you are withholding love, take some time apart and maybe even get some professional support. But, if you’re setting boundaries and feeling your feelings then give yourself permission. The more you are able to do those things, the less likely you are to be in a state that you’d be capable of withholding love.
This is not medical, psychological, legal, or financial advice. If you need that, see the appropriate professional.
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This is for the protectors of our country, our first responders, and those in science who have no one to talk to.
You can't talk to a shrink because...your people just don't do that sort of thing.
You can't talk to your people because they would give you so much $hit (or blacklist you).
This is for the person who heard a voice that said "Move!" and then the bomb exploded right where you were.
This is for the person who was “pulled” through the fire to the exact location the child was hiding.
This is for the person who has experienced something that science can't explain.
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Month in Review
Just in case you missed them, here are the weekly emails from the last month:
Question: What is a “Mandatory Rest Time”?
Question: Do you believe in astrology?
Question: I have Shingles; now what?
Question: How do I “honor Mother Earth”?
Question: What is the most powerful thing we can do in these unstable times?
Week in Review
Here is the subscriber-only content you may have missed this last week. Remember, the daily energy updates are relevant for the day, but the exercises can be done at any time! I’ve just come back from a break so there are only a couple to review.
Friday: Trick Yourself
Saturday: Purposeful Clutter Clearing
Sunday: Read Someone Else’s Book
Monday: Grief AND Love
Tuesday: Flowing Water
Wednesday: Take a Breath First
Today: Be OK with Empty
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