Checkers & How do I deal with the hurt other peoples’ words cause?
Checkers & How do I deal with the hurt other peoples’ words cause?
3 Favs & a Q - Sept. 23, 2021
3 Favs
Favorite Pet Picture: I have to admit, #NationalCheckersDay is not what I originally thought it was. But, reading about it does give a little taste of history that some of us may not have learned (or have forgotten). So, in honor of #NationalCheckersDay, I’ll introduce you to Checkers - a CAT! This little guy is a bit of a couch potato but can hold his own with the big dogs. He’s also a bit of a wrestler. If you’ve already got a retired kitty, have a little compassion for your cat and pass Checkers’ name on to your friend (using the share button below) rather than taking him home for yourself. Checkers is currently being cared for through Friends of the Shelter Foundation.
Favorite Book Quote: Rather than a book quote today, I’m going to highlight a couple of quotes from the Dalai Lama whose main teaching is compassion (which I got from a random quote webpage):
“If you can cultivate the right attitude, your enemies are your best spiritual teachers because their presence provides you with the opportunity to enhance and develop tolerance, patience, and understanding.”
“People take different roads seeking fulfillment and happiness. Just because they’re not on your road doesn’t mean they’ve gotten lost.”
Random Favorite: Small town gatherings
Last night was the homecoming parade. Rather than just have the parade at the school during the football game, or during school hours, they had it in the evening in the town square. It seemed like every club, every team, and every school in the district was represented. The wrestling team was followed by a bunch of elementary students. Even the art club had a “float”. Before the parade, there was a carnival with booths and games. Many of our $1 bills went to supporting a number of clubs and teams so our family could throw balls, darts, or have the opportunity to jump around. After the parade, the band was featured and then the homecoming court was announced. We got to watch everything from my husband’s office which overlooks the town square. It was a beautiful evening and the sense of community was so refreshing.
What were some of your favorite things this week?
& a Q
Question: How do I deal with the hurt other peoples’ words cause?
This week’s question is something I’ve had to work out for myself over the course of the last few weeks. I recently spent time with a couple who decided to take issue with my life and then tell me about it. The first person made accusations. The second decided to give advice. Both cut me pretty deeply and I’ve been struggling with my emotions ever since. Here is the process I’m using to work through it:
Step 1: Vocalize
Out of respect, I didn’t say all that needed to be said during each encounter. The evening after the first experience left me feeling like I was getting a sore throat. It was almost like the words I didn’t say were caught in my throat, choking me. But after the second encounter, I left for a bit. While I was driving, I screamed. I just let it all out. And then I cried. But I felt better. All that energy was no longer stuck in my throat.
Step 2: See the Wisdom
No matter how crazy someone’s opinion or advice or accusations can seem, I always try to find the wisdom.
Step 3: See the Hurt
I could very easily see where the accusations came from. They were direct parallels of this person’s own childhood traumas and guilt. Seeing the pain behind the “loving advice” was a little more difficult. Realizing that fear behind the words was very freeing for me.
Step 4: Compassion
It was connecting with the pain that caused these people to say what they said which helped me connect with compassion. Compassion allowed me to see that they are in the perfect place to learn the life lessons they desire to learn AND they are the perfect people to help me learn the lessons I desire to learn. Compassion for them helped me free myself from the power their words had over me. (Repeat steps 2-5 as needed.)
Step 5: Give it to God
It’s been a few weeks and anything that reminds me of these two people still triggers me. So, I have a choice. I can go on a downward spiral (which I have done several times). Or, I can just give it to God: I imagine the hurt I feel coming out of my heart like a black ball. I put that ball in a box and send it straight up to God. Letting it go in my imagination actually helps me to let it go so my mind I don’t get stuck there. Eventually, I imagine, I’ll stop taking it back from God.
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Friday: I Choose To...
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Sunday: Peace and Compassion
Monday: Assess and Reflect
Tuesday: Connect with Gratitude
Wednesday: Energy-Moving Song
Today: Little Luxuries
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